Why "life plans" suck.

8.11.17

Lately I have been doing a lot of thinking (you know, additional thinking on top of all the other unnecessary things I think about) about the timings of life, the pressure to do what everybody else is doing, and how different my life has panned out to how I imagined it would be. Did I think I would be 32 years old, overcoming a chronic illness, living in my mum's spare room, with a failed engagement under my belt, no kids to speak of, and resorting to an app on my phone in an attempt to find "the one"? Well, no. And when I say it all like that in one sentence it makes me feel pretty shit.  The Victoria of 10 years ago would have been shouting "future Victoria, what the hell are you doing?!" But it is what it is and no amount of worrying can change my current circumstances (I will still worry though, because that is my speciality). 

The purpose of this post serves no purpose except to reach out to anyone who doesn't feel like their life is the way it "should" be or the way other people tell them it should be. I tend to over-complicate life when really it is very simple. If you want to use Tinder and date a different guy every week, you go girl. If you only recently came out of a relationship and you were fine on your own, but you meet someone who sweeps you off your feet, you grab them with both hands! Forget this unspoken rule that after a relationship there is "x" amount of time that needs to pass before you're ready. If you want to be on your own indefinitely, then that is awesome. Embrace it! If you're in a relationship and it doesn't feel right, do something to change it or walk away from it. Don't settle because the alternative is too difficult. We are all beautifully unique and life is very short and I for one am going to stop feeling like a failure just because I have done things slightly different to how I imagined I would.


My new life plan is literally just to laugh with my friends, cuddle my dogs, feel content, and drink enough water. Beyond that who bloody knows!

6 comments:

  1. I think they are good life plans :)

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  2. I needed to read something like this! My life is certainly different to what I expected it to be and there are numerous things whirling around in my head that I constantly worry about which drags me down and make me wonder where I went wrong. But I think we all spend too much time dwelling on the 'what ifs' rather than just embracing what we do have and enjoying the happy times.

    I love your new life plans - I need to drink more water!

    Melissa x

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    1. I feel just like that too - like my head spins with all the what ifs and why nots. Let's beat it together :)

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  3. Amen to this!! I needed this! At 27 I didn't expect to be a widow back living with my parents with no bloody idea what I'm going to do with my life :/ I feel so lost it's impossible to begin to explain. But I need to embrace the fact that this is my life and I have to own it and enjoy the things I can and change the things I can and then just roll with and try to accept the things I can't control. Bleddy life! How can it be so beautiful and yet so heartbreaking, cruel and damn well scary at times?! Thank god for the little comforts we find along the way! Oh speaking of which.. I've just started cross stitching! You've inspired me! I was reading an older post of yours and thought I must give that a go. I love the hot air balloon design you've done! Where did you get it from? xx

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    1. Oh I'm so sorry Lyndsay. This is so tough to read.. nobody should have to go through that.
      (It's from an old Cross Stitcher magazine but I don't have it anymore I'm sorry).xx

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